I knew the first few weeks of April were going to be hectic, but I'm not sure if I was prepared for the total extent of the chaos. I have so much to share and, as usual, not enough time to fill you all in. Let's start with current affairs: this week my fiance's mother is coming to visit us from Iowa and this got me to thinking, while I have a great relationship with my future in-laws, not every bride can say they are that lucky. So, today I just wanted to share a couple tips for getting along, coping, and wedding planning with your significant other's family.
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Be Patient and Respectful: No matter what the issue is you should always keep in mind that these are members of your partner's family and showing them respect is a courteous gesture (and a necessary one). We all come from different values and traditions, so be patient if your future mother-in-law doesn't quite understand your wedding vision. Odds are neither of you want to intentionally offend one another and she more likely than not just wants you to be happy. Just take the time to be friendly.
Ignore What You Can: It's important to pick and choose your battles. No need to turn a tiny comment into a world war, so when possible, just let things roll off your back. If something must be addressed, just be honest- not rude or hostile- but truthful; it's important to not let your emotions build up.
It's Okay To Say "No": If the in-laws have been bombarding you with wedding demands since day one it is fine to inform them whether or not it is a feasible request. Again, just be polite and honest. Another idea if you are getting pelted by decor or vendor suggestions, but you really don't want Great Aunt Sally doing the flowers, then simply tell them you will take the suggestion into consideration. Be diplomatic about things. If, however, things are out of control and a family member is particularly overbearing, it may be important that your partner step in and diffuse the situation.
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